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A Cache of Mouse Skeletons

5/20/2015

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When I was a little girl, my sister and I would bury all mice who died from my mother’s traps.  We had a special place under a giant pine tree and would carry the tiny corpses up the hill for burial.  We did not only bury mice, but all kinds of small animals.  We made a promise to each other that when we saw a dead animal, we would bury it with respect.  I often wonder what the archeologist will say in a few hundred years when they find a cache of mice skeletons.  I wonder if they will think that the people who lived there revered and honored the small rodent. Why are their necks all broken?  Was it part of some sacred ritual? 

My family of origin revered animals.  When our pets died, we had funerals for them.  In our family, pets belonged in the garden when they died.  My father always gave such moving funerals for our pets.  They were always tearjerkers.  Our animals were part of the family, as they are with so many people.   Sometimes we would cremate our pets.  Other times we would have a green burial, but always they were laid to rest in the garden. 

In 2009, our dog, Baraq, died.  To this day we are not sure what happened to him, but we woke up one morning and he could not stand up.  We took him to the vet who did a test to see if he had gotten into some poison, but it wasn’t poison.  What we knew was he had to be put down.  The family gathered around him and said our good byes.  What a sweet creature he was.  The Vet Hospital told us according to city by-laws if we wanted to bury his body he would need to be cremated.  The price of cremation was $1500.00, something we did not have at the time. After a little back-and-forth with the woman, I told her that I was taking his body and if anyone asked me I would make sure they knew that she had informed me about the law.  I took his body in his blanket back home.  We dug him a grave under a flowering bush so that it would not be disturbed.  We placed his favourite toy in the grave with him.  My husband led the funeral and we committed him back to the earth.

Many of us share our lives with animals in one fashion or another.  In our relationship with our companion animals we learn how to love and not expect anything back.   When they throw off this mortal coil, they leave a space in our hearts that only they can fill.  What I learned about Baraq’s burial was that I was in charge.  I don’t advocate breaking the law, but if someone tells you it’s a law you make him or her show you the law.  More times than not, the advice given might be unintentionally wrong.  This happens sometimes in funeral planning for us humans.  Always know what the law says and then don’t worry.  No one has ever come to me about his body under the bush.  By now he has returned to the earth and I hope nurtured our garden along the way
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    Caroline Vuyadinov


    I graduated from St. Vladamir's Orthodox Theological Seminary in Crestwood, New York with a Master of Divinity.  I trained as a chaplain following graduation and worked with a wide variety of people. 

    When I moved to Canada, I began work in a women's halfway house in Hamilton, Ontario which worked with women in conflict with the law on a federal level.  I became the program manager and  loved working alongside the women, creating their plans for their reintegration back to the community.  I also worked as a liaison with the parole board, parole officers and other community service providers.

    Upon my return to the United States, I worked in the Death Care Industry as a Family Service Counselor, which lead me to become a green burial advocate. I co-founded Midwest Green Burial Society with Juliann Salinas. I speak  to community groups and have developed practical seminars for a variety of audiences.  I have been interviewed on a national podcast and was featured on a WGN spot dealing with green burial. 

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