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Change is Like a Little Death

1/17/2018

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​Change is like a little death.  We live through constant change on a daily basis.  We move through these little changes – changes in the weather – changes in the way the light shines –changes in our outlook—changes in so many different ways.  The small changes we take in stride. It is what we do.  Parts of our lives, however, settled in becoming essential parts of our story.  These things become so much a part of our lives that when change happens it unsettles us.  We can mourn these changes.  It is really an ok thing for us to do.  Sometimes we get the message that we should not mourn changes.  Those in our lives tell us that these changes are just a part of life, and so get over it. Sometimes people in our lives find witnessing mourning uncomfortable.   Witnessing loss might remind them of their own grief or loss. Do not take their words to heart—take care of your own needs.

I remember talking to a social worker about September 11.  I found it hard to manage the loss of the World Trade Center.  I felt so stupid and heartless because I felt a loss of a building when so many actual people had died.  The building had become so much a part of my story of living in New York, and my time with my husband, that the loss was so great for me.  This woman worked with many children in New York following the attack.  She told me that children in New York felt the same way I did about the loss of the building because the World Trade Center was like a person to them.  Many New York children would nightly say goodnight the World Trade Center.  The losses of the buildings were very personal for those children—and me.  I was grateful for her words, and allowed myself to grieve the loss of the buildings, even if those around me did not understand.  Sometimes, we just have to allow ourselves to grieve when we feel a loss, even the small losses or the unusual.  Denying the loss does not help us move forward anyway.  What does it hurt to acknowledge the change and mourn the way things were? Having done that we can move toward accepting the truth of the reality of our new lives.  Isn’t that a much more healthy perspective?  
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    Caroline Vuyadinov


    I graduated from St. Vladamir's Orthodox Theological Seminary in Crestwood, New York with a Master of Divinity.  I trained as a chaplain following graduation and worked with a wide variety of people. 

    When I moved to Canada, I began work in a women's halfway house in Hamilton, Ontario which worked with women in conflict with the law on a federal level.  I became the program manager and  loved working alongside the women, creating their plans for their reintegration back to the community.  I also worked as a liaison with the parole board, parole officers and other community service providers.

    Upon my return to the United States, I worked in the Death Care Industry as a Family Service Counselor, which lead me to become a green burial advocate. I co-founded Midwest Green Burial Society with Juliann Salinas. I speak  to community groups and have developed practical seminars for a variety of audiences.  I have been interviewed on a national podcast and was featured on a WGN spot dealing with green burial. 

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