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Cornering the Market on Death

8/13/2015

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Eight states (New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, Louisiana, Michigan, Indiana, Illinois, and Nebraska) have laws in which families have lost the right to choose who they would like to care for the bodies of their loved ones.  These laws create a de facto monopoly for funeral directors by funneling customers to them. Why do these states insist that citizens walk into a high power sales opportunity at perhaps one of the most vulnerable times in their lives?  It surely can’t be because the citizenry no longer possesses the proper education to fill out forms.  Maybe these states think that bodies are too disgusting for families to deal with, but many of our great-grandparents were able to care for their loved ones in death.  It surely can’t be for public health.  Our bodies for the most part do not transmit disease.  Maybe the states think that the citizenry is incapable of making proper choices when it comes to preparing for a funeral.  Surely the government doesn’t think that we are incapable of choosing what is best for ourselves.  All that remains is that the funeral lobby wishes to corner the market on the death care industry.

Recently, with the support from the Monument Builders of New Jersey, New Jersey has passed a law stating that no religious cemetery own or operate a funeral home, or sell monuments or mausoleums.  The law wants to put an end the unfair advantage religious groups have in the market place.  An unfair advantage might exist, but it seems to me that what this is about who gets to run the funeral monopoly.  New Jersey, like the other seven states, requires families to hire a funeral director at the time of death.  This already places them in an unfair advantage.  The state already places vulnerable people in a high-pressure sales situation. I’m not sure that forcing people into a sales situation upon the death of their loved one necessarily protects them.  The death care industry is interested in selling their own goods and services, and not necessarily sharing the sale.  That is just how it works.  A Ford dealer is not likely to want to sell a Chevrolet. In my experience, some funeral directors in these states will work with the alternative or what I like to call traditional death care wishes, but you have to seek them out. I’m not so sure that this new law protects customers.  I am sure that this new law will ensure that the death care industry gets an obligated stream of customers, and the citizens will have fewer choices left to them. 

Every person in the US can have a simple funeral and burial, but these laws just make it harder and harder.  Caring for the dead used to involve family and community. Some of these were from an established group in a religious community.  Sometimes, there were others who would step in to help, but this work was not necessarily a fulltime profession. Through urbanization, our culture has moved away from our intimate knowledge of death care, and the industry has filled the void. We have lost key knowledge we once possessed and not many of us would rather pay strangers to care for those we love than to become involved in the death care process ourselves.  I know not many of us are right now prepared to care for our own dead.  I suggest is that we start looking at death care as an act of love and not something we have to hire out to corporations to deal with.

Do religious groups have an unfair advantage in the sales world?  They quite possibly do.  If they ran a business that undercut the competition, I am sure the outcry from the conventional industry would be even larger.  What it comes down to is who has the right to tell us who we can purchase funeral goods and services from?  Does the state have a right in dictating this?  These eight states decided that their citizens must hire a for-profit organization to care for their loved ones at one of the most vulnerable times in the lives of its citizenry.  These states think that their citizens are incapable of filling out forms or making their own choices they feel best for their own families.  I find that staggering.  Why we who live under these laws do not right now call our state representative and demand a change, I do not know.  I have. I urge you to make that call as well. These laws are unjust and burdensome for the citizenry of these states.  In New Jersey, they are fighting over who has the bigger monopoly when they should be opening up the market place to more competition and creativity.   What has happened in New Jersey can happen in any state.  We need to wake up to the fact that the death care industry lobby is strong and doing well.  We need to stand up for our right to choose, and not let the state dictate to us what is right and best.


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Scott link
8/16/2015 11:18:51 am

You are so very correct in your comments here. The National Funeral Director's Association was not founded until 1881. That is less than 150 years ago. For thousands of years families took care of their own dead. Now many government entities tell families they are not qualified to do what our ancestors did for generations upon generations. Thanks for a clear presentation of the truth. I speak about this and many other things on my video blogs. You can see them here at www.lessonsonleaving.com
Thanks again for a great article.

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Rochelle Martin link
8/16/2015 12:38:06 pm

So true! Thanks for articulating this, Caroline! It’s baffling how a consumer-saavy society could be so completely duped in this one market. It’s all about our fear of death. : ( Let’s get over it, and get back to it! (caring for our loved ones after death).

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    Caroline Vuyadinov


    I graduated from St. Vladamir's Orthodox Theological Seminary in Crestwood, New York with a Master of Divinity.  I trained as a chaplain following graduation and worked with a wide variety of people. 

    When I moved to Canada, I began work in a women's halfway house in Hamilton, Ontario which worked with women in conflict with the law on a federal level.  I became the program manager and  loved working alongside the women, creating their plans for their reintegration back to the community.  I also worked as a liaison with the parole board, parole officers and other community service providers.

    Upon my return to the United States, I worked in the Death Care Industry as a Family Service Counselor, which lead me to become a green burial advocate. I co-founded Midwest Green Burial Society with Juliann Salinas. I speak  to community groups and have developed practical seminars for a variety of audiences.  I have been interviewed on a national podcast and was featured on a WGN spot dealing with green burial. 

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