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The State of the Death Care Industry

7/12/2017

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​Today, I look at the state of the death care industry.  Today, I look at what the industry permits and what it discourages, and I am saddened by it all. Today, I look at the techniques the industry uses to put families “at ease” or rather off balance so that they do not realize the industry works hard to obfuscate what they do.  I hate the use of language the industry uses so that families do not know notice what the industry presents as “proper” and “traditional”.  The industry shuffles the body away so that it can prepare the body for cremation or embalming.  These processes do not necessarily care for the body of our loved ones. One process destroys the body and the other process poisons the body. In both cases, the byproducts of the process enter back into our ecosystem in unexpected ways – one goes up in smoke into the atmosphere while blood goes down the drain into the sewer system.   I imagine if the industry made known what really happens in cremation and embalming, many people would reject them outright.
One must admit that having two options at death cannot meet the needs of our society filled with such a variety of cultural perspectives. What about traditions that also do not fit into the death care industry’s romantic ideas of dealing with a body following death?  Either the industry wants us to imagine we are Egyptian kings and queens or we have become ash and spirit.  
First I object to so many things that the industry does to families. First I object that funeral directors have insinuated themselves as the authority into one of the most tender and difficult times in a family.  I object to the language used by the industry that obfuscates the truth.  I object to the fact that in ten states, citizens are required to hire them, even if they do not wish to.  I object to the fact that people cannot easily get a traditional funeral where no embalming or cremation takes place. I object that if they have to hire a funeral director at the time of death that it costs so much? How can simply cleaning and dressing a body following death be so difficult to obtain?  Our ancestors did it all the time.  We used to care for our own dead.  We used to have community supports for families in grief. Some traditions still easily care for their dead.  I know in some spiritual communities, people are beginning to return to care of the dead as a ministry.  That is all good.   The state of the industry can change only when we change.  For so long the death care industry worked in the dark, changing our perceptions ever so slightly until we would not ask if the services of a funeral home no longer serve the community’s interest. Change can only happen when we decide to take a good look at the truth and have the desire to change.  

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    Caroline Vuyadinov


    I graduated from St. Vladamir's Orthodox Theological Seminary in Crestwood, New York with a Master of Divinity.  I trained as a chaplain following graduation and worked with a wide variety of people. 

    When I moved to Canada, I began work in a women's halfway house in Hamilton, Ontario which worked with women in conflict with the law on a federal level.  I became the program manager and  loved working alongside the women, creating their plans for their reintegration back to the community.  I also worked as a liaison with the parole board, parole officers and other community service providers.

    Upon my return to the United States, I worked in the Death Care Industry as a Family Service Counselor, which lead me to become a green burial advocate. I co-founded Midwest Green Burial Society with Juliann Salinas. I speak  to community groups and have developed practical seminars for a variety of audiences.  I have been interviewed on a national podcast and was featured on a WGN spot dealing with green burial. 

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