The beginning of the New Year always looks so hopeful. People have made plans to change their lives for the better and hope they can stick to these plans. For me when I make a change in my life I have to think about it a long time before I even acknowledge that a change needs to be made. Sometimes these periods of time come after a long time of precontemplation experiences where I begin to even notice a change needs to take place. Change is hard. Yet, most of life is change. The change caused by death sometimes comes when we have not prepared ourselves. That is the nature of death. We all know that we die, but many of us just do not want to think about it nor plan for it. Facing the death of a loved one, planning their memorial services, or planning our own wishes can take a toll on us. Who really looks forward to planning memorial services and facing our own death? Not many of us. Perhaps that is why society comes up with forms we can use to make the process easier. I don’t know.
We are in a new year. Be kind to yourself. If you made the resolution to write a plan for your burial and funeral, do not despair that you have not already made one yet or that if you haven’t done one by a certain time. All is not lost. This process is cyclical. We do need to tell those we love and make sure they can be found in more than one place, because if it exists in one place it does not really exist. I urge you that if you do not have a “completed” plan write down what you have now. You can always change it when you want. Remember these plans are supposed to be an act of love for those who love us. They are meant to guide them along the way. Be kind in your choices. Change is all around us. Sometimes death visits us and we have to act and without a guide - making plans can be difficult. I know this from experience. This is why I urge people to make a plan. We are not always afforded the luxury of slow change. Sometimes we just have to act. Having a plan helps those who will have to deal with the physicality of our death.
We are in a new year. Be kind to yourself. If you made the resolution to write a plan for your burial and funeral, do not despair that you have not already made one yet or that if you haven’t done one by a certain time. All is not lost. This process is cyclical. We do need to tell those we love and make sure they can be found in more than one place, because if it exists in one place it does not really exist. I urge you that if you do not have a “completed” plan write down what you have now. You can always change it when you want. Remember these plans are supposed to be an act of love for those who love us. They are meant to guide them along the way. Be kind in your choices. Change is all around us. Sometimes death visits us and we have to act and without a guide - making plans can be difficult. I know this from experience. This is why I urge people to make a plan. We are not always afforded the luxury of slow change. Sometimes we just have to act. Having a plan helps those who will have to deal with the physicality of our death.
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